Discover Desire (old)

Don’t fancy sex, but not sure why or what to do about it?

You’re not alone.

I wondered exactly the same questions because for four years (four veeeeeery LONG years) my sex drive vanished too.

So, in my quest for better sex, I set about trying to find out WHY my desire had faded, and (most importantly) how to get it back.

And TBH… what I found was pretty amazing.

I knew I had to get the word out to other women who must be feeling the same.

So I created a brand new and *totally free* course called Discover Desire.

What you'll learn

Years of love, learning, developing and refining have gone into this course to curate a comprehensive guide to understanding female sexual desire.

It condenses the hundreds of hours of reading, listening and exploring that I’ve done on desire to bring you an empowering and informative course that explores:

  • why our current understanding of desire is all wrong
  • how a new, better, science backed and empowering understanding of desire changes everything!
  • an introduction to what could be closing down your desire
  • and a framework to help you restore or elevate your sexual desire whenever you choose to. 

You’ll discover that there’s a reason behind why nearly HALF of all women report feeling a lack of interest in sex. 

And- spoiler alert- it’s because the problem isn’t with YOU!

A low sex drive doesn’t mean you are broken.

Heck- we’ll tell you why there’s no such thing as a “sex drive” anyway!

Want to know why it makes total sense that *so* many women experience fading desire in a Long Term Relationship, and what YOU can do about it?

Sign up to our Discover Desire *free* course to find out!

Who this course is for

This course is for:

  • Self-identifed women/womxn experiencing a lack of interest in sex

It might also be useful for  those with a partner experiencing a low sex drive. Some of the content may also be useful to others experiencing less interest in sex- e.g. men, non-binary people, transfolk.

However you identify you are welcome, and we try hard to be inclusive but are really open to feedback about how we can improve.

Interested? Sign up below to get started ♥

Who we are

Desired State is a feminist, womxn-centred platform focused on education and activism around the very misunderstood topic of female sexual desire.

If you’ve lost interest in having sex with a long term partner, and want to breathe new life into your bedroom by understanding why your desire has faded and what you can do to revive it-we’ve got you covered.

Fancy throwing off the shackles of lacklustre sex, igniting your sexuality and setting this sh*t on fire?

♡ We can’t wait to meet you ♡

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Table of Contents

The beginning
Why you're here
What is a sex drive anyway?
Sigmund Freud and the libido
A new understanding of desire
Your Sexual Response System
The type of desire we all know...
A *brand new* way of thinking about desire...
The game-changer
What you need to know...
The simple shift to transform your sex life ♥
Vulva-voom! Your sexual accelerators and brakes
A "low libido"
What is a low libido?
The cause of your low libido
Elevating desire
What you came here to find out...
Your toolkit to boost desire
What next?
Can you help us with our mission?

Frequently Asked Questions

How long do I have access to the course?

Forever! Once you've enrolled, you'll have access to the course material for as long as you need. So devour it all in one weekend or take things slow. It's your choice!

I have a question, how can I contact you?

I'd be happy to answer any questions you might have. Send me an email at

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